How do you nurture yourself?



“Have you been nurturing yourself?”

My dear friend Andrea asks me this question every now and then. She knows how I can get caught up in the busy-ness of everyday to the point that I’d skip lunch, go home late, fret over home concerns and put my own needs on the back burner until my schedule frees up. And you know how that story goes. What free schedule?

So I’ve been making sure I nurture myself no matter how busy the day gets. Nurturing myself can come in the form of catching up on a few chapters of a book before the work day begins, enjoying a good lunch away from my work desk or meeting up with friends.

I’m learning that when you love yourself, you find that it’s easier to love the world around you more.

How do you nurture yourself?

With Coach Shale Tapeo Friends Tapeo SPICE reps
Tapeo Specialty Wholehearted in Stripes Tapeo with Mon
Tapeo with Pong Tapeo Stories Tapeo Gypsy Cake

I nurture myself by hanging out with good friends more regularly. This is a breakthrough for me, as my life has mostly been revolving around work and family the past five years. If I did meet up with friends, it was very rare and guilt-ridden (“Is my son okay? Maybe I shouldn’t go out at all. Yes, I’ll stay home so nobody needs to babysit him.”) After LEAP, I realized how I was falling short of nurturing myself by not simply hanging out with my friends. I love how laughter with dear friends feeds my soul. The pictures above were from a mini-reunion of my LEAP batch. We had sangria and good eats at Tapeo. Yum!

Sunday Morning Playdough

I nurture myself by reconnecting with the child in me. My 5-year-old is a constant reminder of how childlike wonder is essential to loving yourself. I love it when we play pretend together, when we make stories out of Playdough characters. I love it when my son asks me to read to him, and I do so in different voices. Taking on those characters during storytelling helps keep that childlike joy, which lets me see the world through a gentler, happier lens.

These Gold Shoes

I nurture myself by wearing shoes that make me happy. That needs no explanation!

Blissful Morning Working Breakfast

I nurture myself by eating properly at work. It’s so easy to gravitate to junkfood at the workplace. I’ve been feeling the effects of a bad workday diet already, so I’m steering clear of chips and too much coffee. More importantly, I’m loving myself by making sure I eat! I tend to run through the day’s lunch and snack hours by not leaving my desk, hence not eating at all. Bad, I know. That’s changed now.

End of the Week Reward

I nurture myself by rewarding myself. After a long and productive week, I walked to the nearby frozen yogurt store and got myself this snack. Mmmmmmm. Green tea frozen yogurt with fruits AND chocolate chips. That signaled the end of my work week. A happy ending. This will be repeated for the next weeks for sure.

Reading Now

I nurture myself by making time to read. Whether it’s a Kindle or a paper book, I try to read when I can. This was taken when I got to work extra early. I eased into the day by reading a few chapters from this book. It was a refreshing change from checking my e-mail right away.


I nurture myself by knowing what I’m worth and making sure other people do too. When you love yourself, you know what you’re worthy of. That means not letting people treat you like a doormat, take advantage of you, pull a fast one over you. It’s your choice if you let those acts continue. But when you know that you’re worth more than that, that’s when the fun begins. That’s when you learn how to pull your chin up, pull your shoulders back, and walk with purpose. That’s when you begin learning to love yourself more and making other people know it.

Now it’s your turn. Tell me. How do you nurture yourself? <3 Credit: Love Yourself and More Than Diamonds images from pocketfuel.

4 Comments on How do you nurture yourself?

  1. Jan
    November 18, 2014 at 1:30 pm (9 years ago)

    Hi Toni. Love this post. Very timely and spot on ! Hope I can do all these. Thanks for sharing.

    • Toni
      December 9, 2014 at 1:00 am (9 years ago)

      Thank you for sharing, Jan! :)

  2. sheng
    November 19, 2014 at 5:15 am (9 years ago)

    Hi Toni, I am thankful for the way you shared your tips on nurturing yourself. Makes me feel like I have not done it for so long so I think I’m gonna indulge with a little shopping later, something that I haven’t done for a long while because of the feeling that life’s taking a toll on me. thanks! Will share mine soon!
    sheng´s last blog post ..Would I Want a Big House?

    • Toni
      December 9, 2014 at 1:01 am (9 years ago)

      Did you indulge in shopping? Do tell! :)


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