When was the last time you did something new with your husband/wife?
Routine with our spouses can be comforting. There’s nothing like sliding into a booth of your favorite restaurant, ordering each of your dishes without having to look at the menu, and feeling the secure, comfortable vibe the place brings you both. Routine can be our anchor in our crazy everydays. Work can get crazy and there could be nothing you crave for but the reliable warm haunts and secure activities you’ve both grown accustomed to. Such comforts should be cherished!
What could be routine for you two? Weekly date nights is one. The same old movie-and-dinner combo could be another. The same restaurant. The same mall. The same weekend schedule. The same, the same. The same could be good, but it could also get old. Same old, same old.
So how about injecting a little newness? It not only opens your minds to new things, but a little freshness can further invigorate your relationship. It could be as simple as trying a new restaurant instead of your usual ones. Or playing at a video arcade together. How about going for a run together instead of working out separately? Go for a drive instead of spending Saturday mornings holed up at home. Or if you’re always out of the house, spend Saturday mornings holed up at home instead of going for a drive. You don’t have to go jump off walls together to bring in that newness.
Is this even important? Yes it is, very much so. It keeps the fire burning, it keeps the romantic energy up. You’re both experiencing new things together, with each other, that alone is reason enough to go for these fresh activities.
H tells me once in awhile, “Let’s do something crazy today.” I’m a sucker for routine, so I’m happy my husband helps balance me out. Our “crazy today” activities have brought us going for a picnic at the Sunken Garden, visiting all the malls along EDSA via MRT (ALL the malls), enjoying the crisp air out of town and many others. With these new experiences together, we have more stories to tell too.
So when was the last time you did something new with your spouse? Tell us about it! Married couples, especially those who’ve been married for a long time, can easily fall into routine. Let’s inspire each other by sharing experiences and ideas! I look forward to reading what you have to share. 
Hi! I'm Toni Tiu,
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at Wifely Steps since 2003. This started as a blog to help newly weds adjust to married life. It has evolved into a home and parenting blog. I write about things close to my heart -- good eats, good reads, family, marriage, and the little things that make everyday happy.
Rico
July 11, 2008 at 12:28 pm (16 years ago)We are a new couple. And though a lot of things are still new, we still make it a habit to do some “new” things. We call it rediscovering. Maybe visit an interesting place we haven’t been to in a while. Or maybe going to a trip to Binondo or Divisoria. We’ve been there before, but there are still so many things we haven’t seen and done (and eaten hehe). Routines are good, but new things spice it up!
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anj
July 11, 2008 at 12:35 pm (16 years ago)it’s just been three weeks, haha. di pa nga kami nag-da-date e.
but our routine is usually just browse the internet together before going to sleep. last night though, i told him na we should do something different. we ended up watching reality bites, which we both haven’t seen before, on his laptop. tapos yun, after we saw the movie, we had a 90’s music trip and i was dancing and he was pretend-dancing (which is good enough for a guy who does not dance). haha.
watta man! what’s up! i saw the sign! rump shaker! oh yeah… the 90’s.
it was just a silly night at the house, but it was fun!
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pinayhekmi
July 11, 2008 at 1:46 pm (16 years ago)Woody and I attended a Gong Fu Tea Ceremony just last Sunday. We love to do new things. He’s the best companion!
sheng
July 11, 2008 at 3:50 pm (16 years ago)Well we just bought a new keyboard for the kids to practice their fingers on, and we are trying it out just the same. We might stumble onto some old chords and strike up a few keys to make a good-homey sound soon, and yes, this is a new experience because we get excited to go straight home on a Friday, and not scour the malls for something fattening to engross ourselves in. This is gonna be a new Friday for the two of us, and for the kids too! They will see us home very early… haha!
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Jayme
July 11, 2008 at 3:54 pm (16 years ago)Hubby and I love to explore new restaurants together. We try to eat a new restaurant whenever we go out on a date. But the most memorable thing for me was when we both went to Puerto Galera for the first time. I think we became much, much closer then. Traveling together really is a beautiful bonding experience. Thanks for this great post Toni.
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kreez
July 11, 2008 at 5:50 pm (16 years ago)hubby and I have been married for almost 2 yrs, we have daily, weekly even monthly routines but hubby is quite good at coming up with ideas in trying something new. before our 1st anniv, he suggested that each anniversay that we would celebrate, we would go to a place that we’ve never been before. being in a different place is a great way to move away from routines. He took me to Barcelona on our 1st anniv and he’s planning to take me to Greece on our 2nd anniversary. Fun and Romantic times!!! So excited!
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lady cess
July 12, 2008 at 6:57 am (16 years ago)i agree toni, a little break from the routine here and there is great for both husband and wife. it’s also one way to create beautiful memories.
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aggy
July 12, 2008 at 6:20 pm (16 years ago)we went skydiving together
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Daphne
July 13, 2008 at 11:29 am (16 years ago)I agree it is important to spice things up to avoid a monotonous marriage.
But I’ve only been married for barely 2 months! So everyday is an exciting moment for us. Discovering and adjusting to each other. The other night we both cooked molo soup for the first time and it was yummy if I may say so myself hehe 😉
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Meeya
July 14, 2008 at 11:36 pm (16 years ago)ay yay yay. it has been a while! the last time was when we played wii against each other (we were not huge video games fans before, but not anymore, haha!). our console was new and we just decided to play against each other, matalo hugas pinggan, hehe. it was fun and he did beat the heck out of me. (talo pa rin siya ni ninna, though! haha!)
anna
July 17, 2008 at 4:01 am (16 years ago)hmm, I have been trying hard to rediscover our relationship for the past month…you see, we have been married for 7 years and to top that have dated exclusively for 6 years before getiing married…so medyo, we came to a point that almost everything have been a routine lalo na nung magkaroon na kami ng anak…last may, we celebrated our 7th year as a married couple…I was able to break the routine by buying a card (mura lang sya, haha ; ), 18 pesos sa stationery section ng SM…pero cute nung message…sabi nung card sa harap “narinig ko kanina ung theme song natin, naalala kita…then if you open it, it reads “mag date kaya tayo?”…well, mushy kami pareho so i know we appreciated the message well…we went to LaMesa Eco Park and enjoyed the freshness of the breeze without going to a far flung place….oh, and i almost forgot we left the kid sa tatay ko…
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Rach (Heart of Rachel)
July 21, 2008 at 11:05 pm (16 years ago)This is a great post. I always love the thought of doing new things together. Watching the hot air balloon fiesta at pampanga and the close encounter with the dolphins at subic were very memorable activities.