Trust Yourself

Do you trust yourself? I stumbled upon this quote while browsing through some of the theosophy digests at home. This quote jumped up and seemed to shout “Read me! Read me!”. And so I did. And took a picture of it.

Trust yourself.

Trust yourself and your happiness will follow.

It’s a good point for reflection. We may have read a lot of quotes on believing in yourself. Keeping the faith. Trusting yourself is a different action altogether. I think trusting in yourself comes even before you begin believing in yourself. Trust is the foundation of any relationship after all. That includes building a relationship with yourself.

“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.” – Foster McClellan

Do I trust myself? Sometimes I do. I can trust myself to be calm. I can trust myself to be serene. Family and colleagues have pointed out on several occasions how “chill” I am in the face of tension. During one big meeting, some of my colleagues were restless and I was just quiet in my seat. One officemate called out, “Toni! You’re so in the zone! So calm!” I just smiled. Calmness, quiet, serenity — that I can trust myself with. Finding quiet in chaos? That I can trust myself with. Does that make me happy? Yes it does.

Other parts are more difficult though. Sometimes in being too “chill”, others misinterpret it as apathy or lack of enthusiasm. I don’t exactly go about jumping around and declaring that I’m enthusiastic about something. It’s just not my thing. But hey, I’m at peace with that. It used to bother me, but now, not so much.

There are other things I’m still working on.

I trust myself to be a good Mom, but I admit there are little things here and there that stop be from being the best Mom I can be. For example, long hours at work or working over the weekend.

I trust myself to be a good wife, but my husband and I do have our struggles from time to time. It’s so much easier to retreat sometimes and just not come out of the room.

But because I trust myself to be a better Mom and a better wife, I try to do things better.

That’s when trust matters more — by turning trust into action. By the manifestations of trust.

And so it goes like this now:

“I trust myself to be a great Mom therefore .”
“I trust myself to be a great wife therefore .”

I know I can do better. I believe I can. Because I trust myself. I trust in my values. I trust that I am creating the kind of self I will be, that I AM, happy to live with all my life.

It’s a journey of self-discovery 36 years in the making. I think I’m on the right track. I know I am. I trust myself.

Hi! I'm Toni Tiu, and I've been blogging at at Wifely Steps since 2003. This started as a blog to help newly weds adjust to married life. It has evolved into a home and parenting blog. I write about things close to my heart -- good eats, good reads, family, marriage, and the little things that make everyday happy.