29 is a very good year. I just doodled in my notepad most of the blessings I received in my 29th year. There were a lot. What I thought had been a quiet year was a very spirited one. I learned a lot this year about myself, my marriage, my aspirations. It sounds cliché, doesn’t it? It sure doesn’t feel like one though, and I’m happy.
In my 29th year, I learned I truly wanted a life of creativity. I found myself at a crossroads one time, wondering whether I should pursue a career outside of creativity. It was a very difficult decision to make. While any road you take will help you grow as a person, the question is: will that lead you to what you want to do for the rest of your life? Career path, life path — they are two different things. Your career isn’t your life after all, just a part of it. I knew I wanted a life of creativity and imagination, and so pursued the road that let me live it. I do not regret it. The life path I choose is one of creative passion, and I’m truly happy with how this turned out. Thank you to my godmother, my closest friends, my parents and my husband for enlightening me with this life lesson.
In my 29th year, I learned that while strength is good, learning how to control it is better. I believed in my strength, but suffered the consequences of taking on too many responsibilities. Learn to let others lead, my dear friend advised. There are times when you lead, there are times when others do. And so I learned how to delegate, to train others, to be a partner, to sit back and not be the driver all the time. No backseat driving allowed either. I now feel much lighter and on top of my game, now that I know how to manage myself better.
In my 29th year, I learned that in a marriage, growing as individuals is just as important as growing as a couple. Sincere encouragement and belief in each other allow H & me to pursue our individual interests and crafts without alienating each other. And as we grew as individuals, we also grew together, stronger than ever. What better growth can you get than that!
My 29th seemed to assure me that things will get even better in my 30s. My 20s were quite the impulsive and adventurous ride, and 29 closed the loop on all its craziness. I am thankful and relieved.
While 29 was a very good year, if not the best year of my twenties, I can’t wait to turn 30. I feel like it’s the beginning of springtime. So come on 30s, bring it on!
Hi! I'm Toni Tiu,
and I've been blogging at
at Wifely Steps since 2003. This started as a blog to help newly weds adjust to married life. It has evolved into a home and parenting blog. I write about things close to my heart -- good eats, good reads, family, marriage, and the little things that make everyday happy.
JO
July 25, 2007 at 11:22 pm (17 years ago)Hi Toni,
Advance Happy Birthday to you and your mom!!! Cheers!
rach
July 25, 2007 at 11:34 pm (17 years ago)Hi Toni. It’s wonderful to know that your 29th year is highlighted with positive things. I love how you embrace another year and open yourself to the idea of wonderful things to come. Advance Happy Birthday and wishing you best of health, a great career and many wonderful blessings to come your way. God bless.
Daphne
July 25, 2007 at 11:53 pm (17 years ago)This post provided a good prespective on your 29th year. Here’s wishing you more blessings as you embark on your 30s journey. It certainly seems you are in good hands with your loving family, your faithful husband and your loyal friends to support you all the way. Cheers, Toni
Anne
July 26, 2007 at 9:40 am (17 years ago)Wishing you all the best that life has to offer…Happy Birthday!
cookie
July 26, 2007 at 12:52 pm (17 years ago)I’m so happy for you, Toni. Every year that passes brings both new lessons and new experiences. It is how we learn and how we deal that really makes the year truly worth looking back at.
Advanced Happy 30th Birthday, Toni!! May your 30th year be blessed!!
hazel
July 26, 2007 at 1:23 pm (17 years ago)yay ikli na lang keycode :p
HaBeRdEy!!!
iska
July 26, 2007 at 7:06 pm (17 years ago)Happy birthday Toni! Wishing you the best!
AYEZA
July 27, 2007 at 4:31 am (17 years ago)Happy Birthday, toni!
Lissa
July 28, 2007 at 12:43 am (17 years ago)I really like how you face your 30s with such enthusiasm. I have to be honest with you, I’m kinda dreading turning 30 but you know what, you’ve helped me realize that it’s not such a bad thing. After all, age ain’t nothin’ but a number. Cheers!
chinita_jill
August 2, 2007 at 9:08 pm (17 years ago)nice, nice post. somehow, those are the things that are occupying my mind as well. i’m glad that you’re fulfilling your philosohphies in the paths of your life, career, and relationship :o) good job at a girl just shy of 30…or 3 days over 30, as i’m posting this just now. hehe.
i’d wish you belated happy birthday now, but i’m gonna leave that comment on the appropriate post.