Marriage quote on being strong when the other is weak

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This marriage quote hit close to home.

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Be strong for each other.
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My husband and I say that to each other when faced with moments of weakness. “Please be my rock!,” one of us would say to the other, before one would open his/her heart out while the other listens compassionately. I think there are times when we’re both feeling like we’re on top of the world. But there are indeed moments when the other one needs a boost. I thank God that I can always count on my husband to be strong for me when I am weak.

Marriage Quote: “A strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It is a husband and wife who take turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.”

Being strong for the other means being supportive, or even at the very least, providing a listening ear. When it’s me having a weak moment, my husband knows I need two things: 1) peace and quiet from him while I rant, rave, whine, or cry, followed by 2) his honest opinions about how I can move forward. When he’s the one who needs a listening ear, I know he needs me to listen compassionately, then give him a boost.

At its simplest, being each other’s rock means simply being there to hold the other (literally, figuratively).

We’re not perfect. Your husband’s not perfect. Your wife’s not perfect. When the other’s feeling weak, try to avoid criticizing. Your partner’s already feeling helpless. Don’t make them feel even worse! They pretty much know they’re weak at the moment. What your partner needs is compassion. If you REALLY want to voice out what’s in your head, ask these 3 questions first:

Is it true? If no, don’t say it! If yes, proceed to next question.
Must it be said? If no, don’t say it! If yes, proceed to next question.
How do you say it the kindest way possible?

Being the rock means being extra sensitive. It may be difficult especially if you want to share your opinion right away, but hold your horses! Let your partner do the talking first.

Practice makes perfect!

Sometimes my husband jumps in right away with solutions when I’m just halfway through my storytelling. I hate that! I realize though that it’s a guy thing — wanting to offer practical solutions right away. I call his attention to it, saying “Husby, can you listen to me first please?”

I’m not perfect either. When it’s my turn to talk, I tend to look at all parts of the story first. This gives my husband the impression that I’m not prioritizing his needs or taking his side. That’s not my intention at all, but it’s how he interprets it. So when I’m the rock, I try to be super conscious with how I say my piece.

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Be strong when the other is weak. It’s one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in marriage, and it’s one I continue to pass on to friends who are newlyweds. It’s a quote that you’ll come back to again and again, as you and your partner grow individually and together. :)

11 Comments on Marriage quote on being strong when the other is weak

  1. Lissa
    March 10, 2014 at 11:33 pm (9 years ago)

    This post hits close to home right now. I may have said something harsh to the hubby but I think it was something he needed to hear. I did tell him though that no matter what, I will always have his best interest at heart. It’s a bit hard sometimes to hold back when you know for sure your partner messed up big time. I did try to rein in my anger though and I think we’re okay now.

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    • Toni
      March 11, 2014 at 6:22 am (9 years ago)

      Thanks for sharing, Lissa. Sometimes I do “tough love” but it doesn’t suit me! It always comes out wrong. :-/ The desire to help is genuine though! Glad you’re both okay now :)

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  2. Camille Aguila
    March 13, 2014 at 4:55 pm (9 years ago)

    This is very timely. I have bumped into this quote days ago but I appreciate how you said what you said. My marriage is quite at the bumpy road now so I constantly have to remind this to myself. Thanks
    Camille Aguila´s last blog post ..Manila Hotel Photo Diary

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    • Toni
      March 31, 2014 at 5:47 am (8 years ago)

      Wishing you the best, Camille!

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  3. Mars M.
    March 19, 2014 at 12:02 pm (9 years ago)

    I love this post. I am a new wife, but I have been with my now-husband for 11 years before we got married. We always say to each other that when someone is weak, the other needs to be a rock. So through the years we have been taking turns. He’s the rock these days. :)

    I’m so glad I found your blog and I can’t wait to read more.

    Mars M.
    http://www.montessoriinmars.blogspot.com
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    • Toni
      March 31, 2014 at 5:48 am (8 years ago)

      Thank you for dropping by, Mars. Looking forward to connecting with you more! I love your blog!!!

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    • Toni
      March 31, 2014 at 5:50 am (8 years ago)

      Never too late. :)

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  4. ays
    March 20, 2014 at 9:20 pm (9 years ago)

    Hey Toni! This is a great post. A couple of months ago, my husband and I were faced with such heartbreak and loss. I used to think that I’m the stronger one of the two of us, but during that time, I proved myself wrong. I am so thankful that my husband helped pull me through that rough patch, even as he was hurting inside as well.
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    • Toni
      March 31, 2014 at 5:50 am (8 years ago)

      Hugs! Wishing you all the best, ays.

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  5. Devansh Sharma
    May 18, 2020 at 4:03 pm (2 years ago)

    Totally Relatable Post !!!!

    Sometimes, life is simply hard. this is often when being strong is your only choice. you’re raising your armor and your sword, act wisely, and attract the energy stored in your heart. However, sooner or later, you’ll impress.

    But in our more normal, raw lives, we rarely speculate that the natural course of life will ever take its revenge on us.

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