This marriage quote hit close to home.
Be strong for each other.
My husband and I say that to each other when faced with moments of weakness. “Please be my rock!,” one of us would say to the other, before one would open his/her heart out while the other listens compassionately. I think there are times when we’re both feeling like we’re on top of the world. But there are indeed moments when the other one needs a boost. I thank God that I can always count on my husband to be strong for me when I am weak.
Marriage Quote: “A strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It is a husband and wife who take turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.”
Being strong for the other means being supportive, or even at the very least, providing a listening ear. When it’s me having a weak moment, my husband knows I need two things: 1) peace and quiet from him while I rant, rave, whine, or cry, followed by 2) his honest opinions about how I can move forward. When he’s the one who needs a listening ear, I know he needs me to listen compassionately, then give him a boost.
At its simplest, being each other’s rock means simply being there to hold the other (literally, figuratively).
We’re not perfect. Your husband’s not perfect. Your wife’s not perfect. When the other’s feeling weak, try to avoid criticizing. Your partner’s already feeling helpless. Don’t make them feel even worse! They pretty much know they’re weak at the moment. What your partner needs is compassion. If you REALLY want to voice out what’s in your head, ask these 3 questions first:
Is it true? If no, don’t say it! If yes, proceed to next question.
Must it be said? If no, don’t say it! If yes, proceed to next question.
How do you say it the kindest way possible?
Being the rock means being extra sensitive. It may be difficult especially if you want to share your opinion right away, but hold your horses! Let your partner do the talking first.
Practice makes perfect!
Sometimes my husband jumps in right away with solutions when I’m just halfway through my storytelling. I hate that! I realize though that it’s a guy thing — wanting to offer practical solutions right away. I call his attention to it, saying “Husby, can you listen to me first please?”
I’m not perfect either. When it’s my turn to talk, I tend to look at all parts of the story first. This gives my husband the impression that I’m not prioritizing his needs or taking his side. That’s not my intention at all, but it’s how he interprets it. So when I’m the rock, I try to be super conscious with how I say my piece.
Be strong when the other is weak. It’s one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in marriage, and it’s one I continue to pass on to friends who are newlyweds. It’s a quote that you’ll come back to again and again, as you and your partner grow individually and together.