On the sixth year of marriage

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You know you’re addicted to Farm Town when the only way your husband can get your attention is to leave you a message ON Farm Town.

The only way we could reach me

Haha! Me on my laptop in the living room, him on his laptop in the bedroom. After his many attempts to get me to rest, this was the only one that worked!

My husband knows me all too well. :)

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6 years! Lots of ups and downs, swerves and crossroads, laughter and tears. I still feel like we’re boyfriend and girlfriend. We still go on dates. We hold hands all the time. We’ve stood by each other through thick and thin. As my cousin advised me before getting married:

“Kahit anong paghihirap kayang-kaya basta sabay niyong haharapin.”
(“There’s no obstacle too big to handle for as long as you face it together.”)

And I pass that advice on to you! It’s helped us greatly through the years.

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We kicked off yesterday’s special day by attending our 1st childbirth class together. It was so much fun! I had hesitations about going to class, but curiosity and the support of friends who’ve taken the class won me over. Only on our first class and I already feel more empowered with my pregnancy. I also love how the husbands are so involved. Again, we can go through anything as long as we do it together — even the pains of labor and delivery!

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Last trimester is coming soon! This is the last week of my second trimester. I already feel heavy. It’s getting harder to find a position to sleep at night, and sitting for long periods of time makes my lower abs hurt. I’m beginning to sweat more. I have a double chin. I’ve spotted one stretchmark. My arms are getting flabby. I have to pee more in the middle of the night. It’s hard to get up from bed. I’m starting to get “cankles.” I had my first pregnancy-related “I’m so fat and ugly” feeling last night. I’ve started getting leg cramps in the morning. The energy boost I got in my second trimester is slowly draining.

But despite all that, I feel my baby move everyday. I feel him swim and squirm. I love it when he responds to my voice. I love it when he responds to H’s voice. I love it when he hiccups. I love it when he nudges and kicks. I love seeing my belly grow. I love it when I wake up to his movements. I love it when I sleep to his movements. I love it when my Mama kisses my belly and talks to her first grandchild. I love it when my baby calms down when I caress my belly.

So all those aches and pains? They’re bygones in a split-second when I think about this little boy I’ll be meeting soon.

*****

On the sixth year of our marriage, we’re a family of three. I couldn’t ask for anything more. Thank you, Lord. Thank you, universe. Thank you, H. Thank you, love. Thank you, faith.

Hi! I'm Toni Tiu, and I've been blogging at at Wifely Steps since 2003. This started as a blog to help newly weds adjust to married life. It has evolved into a home and parenting blog. I write about things close to my heart -- good eats, good reads, family, marriage, and the little things that make everyday happy.

27 Comments on On the sixth year of marriage

  1. kaiskeebeat
    May 25, 2009 at 8:12 am (15 years ago)

    and i’ve known you all those years (+ a few years before)! i’m so happy for you, toni!

    kaiskeebeats last blog post..a kingdom for a smile

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  3. Eper
    May 25, 2009 at 8:46 am (15 years ago)

    Congratulations on 6 years of marital bliss! :)

    You’re right, all the aches and pains are worth it when you think about the gift that awaits after 9 months. And I know it’s especially sweet for you and your hubby since you’ve been praying for this little bundle of joy for a long time, just as we have.

    Stay healthy and happy, Toni! :)

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  4. blue rose
    May 25, 2009 at 9:05 am (15 years ago)

    happy 6th anniversary to you toni & hubby.

    ang saya-saya naman. good luck to both of you. very soon makikita nyo na rin si baby timmy.

    blue roses last blog post..assessment & shift of plans

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  5. hazel
    May 25, 2009 at 9:18 am (15 years ago)

    wow, 6 years! congratulations toni and h! :)

    hazels last blog post..It’s 4:00 am

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  6. star
    May 25, 2009 at 9:26 am (15 years ago)

    it’s been a pleasure to be, somehow, a part of your marriage by sharing your life as H’s wife. happy anniversary and cheers to more years of love and laughter!! :)

    stars last blog post..Weekend Plans

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  7. Anne
    May 25, 2009 at 9:55 am (15 years ago)

    HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!

    Annes last blog post..Teamwork

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  8. Daphne
    May 25, 2009 at 10:36 am (15 years ago)

    A beautiful tribute post to your 6 years of marriage!

    Happy Anniversary and may you and H (together with lil Timmy) celebrate many more blissful anniversaries to come. :)

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  9. Junnie
    May 25, 2009 at 11:02 am (15 years ago)

    Toni nd Husbo Dennis. What a great way to celebrate your 6th Anniversary! We are so sure it was and will be a great year! The changes in the responsibilities and daily routines will make your bond stronger for sure. don’t forget to ask help from the Lord everytime.

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  11. witsandnuts
    May 25, 2009 at 11:46 am (15 years ago)

    “let’s sleep na” – hahaha! That was so cute!

    Happy anniversary, Toni! Life would be more beautiful once Timmy comes out. =)

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  12. odette
    May 25, 2009 at 2:18 pm (15 years ago)

    happy 6th anniversary toni and h!
    i’ve read from a friend’s blog before, as she talked about her firstborn…
    “you think you know what true love is? wait till the little one comes out…” ^-^

    take care, stay healthy and happy! ♥

    odettes last blog post..blog love

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  13. kreez
    May 25, 2009 at 3:09 pm (15 years ago)

    Congratulations Toni and your H! so happy for both of you and excited about the third member of your family.

    kreezs last blog post..Bohol Sea Adventure

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  14. Tessa
    May 25, 2009 at 3:48 pm (15 years ago)

    Hi, Toni! Happy Anniversary to you both!

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  16. dyanie
    May 25, 2009 at 9:22 pm (15 years ago)

    Happy Anniversary Tonigirl and to your H! :) More more years to come! 😛

    dyanies last blog post..Sugar Rush!

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  18. Munchkin Mommy
    May 25, 2009 at 10:24 pm (15 years ago)

    Happy Anniversary, Toni and husband! :) May God shower you with many more years of marital bliss! Cheers!

    Toni, I agree that childbirth classes empowers couples. My hubby and I attended childbirth classes conducted by Chiqui Brosas. Not only was it fun, it also armed us with information that when we went to the OB-Gyn for check-ups, we knew exactly what she was talking about. :) We also attended a Baby 101 class and a breastfeeding class, plus a preggy convention! Hahaha!

    Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, Toni and hubby! *mwah*

    Munchkin Mommys last blog post..LP #57 & #58: Sa Pagtatapos & Lahat at Payak

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  19. Jeanny
    May 25, 2009 at 11:18 pm (15 years ago)

    Ang saya di ba? Whenever dumarating ang 24th I always remember na it’s our special day. Thanks to w@w at I knewn you and D. So farming na tayo hehehehe!!!!

    Happy Anniv ulit!

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  22. Kay
    May 27, 2009 at 5:13 am (15 years ago)

    Wow! Congrats! I’m so happy for you guys. My guy and I talk via YM or FB chat at times. Lol.

    Kays last blog post..myDSL is so not fast

    Thanks Kay! :)

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  23. Lissa
    May 27, 2009 at 6:32 am (15 years ago)

    Happy Anniversary Toni. You wrote a really sweet entry. You’ll enjoy your family even more once little Timmy comes. :)

    Thanks Lissa! I can’t wait to meet this little guy.

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  24. Christianne
    May 27, 2009 at 3:20 pm (15 years ago)

    Haha, that screenshot reminds me of the time Edward and I were addicted to Ragnarok! Sumasali pa kami sa mga quest, guild wars, etc. i very easily get addicted to games so I’ve avoided playing anything on Facebook! Takot nga akong bumili ng SIMS 3 this summer, baka di ako matulog sa kakalaro.

    Happy anniversary to you and husby. What a year for the both of you :)

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  25. julie
    May 27, 2009 at 10:37 pm (15 years ago)

    I wish you and your hubby well :) We too are looking forward to seeing Timmy :)

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  27. Nocramps @ leg cramps night
    October 28, 2009 at 9:51 pm (15 years ago)

    Sorry to hear you are getting leg cramps at night. A little massage with oil from your husband wouldn’t go amiss if you can drag yourselves away from the laptops…. try drinking plenty of water and eating a banana at suppertime too for the potassium
    .-= Nocramps @ leg cramps night´s last blog ..Painful Leg Cramps, What Can I do? =-.

    Thanks for the tips!

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