It’s so easy to fall into that trap of comparing yourself to other couples. There are times when I honestly feel like I have to keep up. When I have that feeling I feel like I’m often failing. H and I have our own quirks, conflicts, similarities… sometimes I wonder, are we doing enough? Are we in trouble? What should we do?
It takes a lot of strength to step back. Sometimes I look at my marriage through the eyes of other people. I see a lot of negative stuff. I also see a lot of good stuff. But what makes me pause after a bit of introspection is, duh, why am I looking at it through other people’s eyes? Why not my own?
“Our journey isn’t perfect. But it’s ours… and I’ll stick with you till the end.”
It’s our journey together. So true! Truthfully, it’s not always perfect. But I find heaven in the little things that keep us going everyday.
His kiss on my lips before he leaves for his morning jog.
His texts through the day to check in on how I’m doing.
His hand reaching out to hold mine in the middle of the night.
His being hardworking to provide a good life for me and Timmy.
His thoughtfulness when he makes me a glass of lemonade or cooks a snack for me.
The negative humps in a marriage are so easy to spot, the beautiful things much harder. I’m learning to focus on the positive while working on the little humps so we can have a smoother journey together. It will be OUR journey. It may be imperfect, but it’s a journey I wouldn’t take with anyone else.