A “babymoon” is a vacation you and your partner take together before the baby arrives. It’s an opportunity for you to get away from drudgery of everyday housework, to take a break from baby planning and to just enjoy your time together as husband and wife.
You may ask, “Do I really need one? We’re okay as we are. We’re not stressed out or anything.” It’s really all up to you, just as a honeymoon is optional after the wedding. My advice though? Take one. Go on a babymoon. It’s a great way to destress, relax and to reconnect with your partner!
The second trimester would probably be the best time to take a babymoon — one is strong enough, can still travel, and you’re notyet that pressured in getting baby stuff together. H & I planned on this during my 5th month of pregnancy, but the AH1N1 scare pushed us to just stay home. Oh well, we thought, we could do without the babymoon.
Thankfully, part of my friends’ present during our 2nd baby shower was a stay at the hotel where we celebrated the shower. When my friends said bye-bye for the afternoon, we had the suite all to ourselves! It was an impromptu babymoon, and we enjoyed every minute of it.
What I loved about our babymoon: It was a welcome break from baby planning and a great way for us to reconnect as husband and wife, not as Mommy and Daddy. There were no dishes in the sink to think about. No bed to make in the morning. Breakfast was a delightful spread, no need to get up early to cook. I didn’t have my staple baby books to read, so I just relaxed while watching DVDs with H. Sure, there was talk about the baby, but nothing about baby planning. It was more “The next time we stay at a hotel, Timmy will be with us!” than “Did we buy enough diapers and bottles for his baby bag? Let me check my list…” It was ideal to get away from our home even for one night. If I were home, I probably would’ve found some chore to act on. Since we were in a hotel, it was all about chilling out. And both of us badly needed some chilling out.
On our way home the next day, we were both so recharged, so refreshed. All of that in just one night away from home!
How you plan your babymoon is all up to you! It could be as simple as a day away from home or a whole week. It could be a quick overnight stay at a nearby hotel or a vacation out of the country. Just be sure to get your doctor’s approval if you’re traveling far, far away.
However which way you plan to spend your babymoon, make sure it’s all about you and your partner. Sure, baby talk will make its way into your talks, especially when your belly’s oh-so-big! But do make an effort to make your little vacation more about you two. Note that it will probably take a long time before both of you go on a vacation all by yourselves.
While everything will be more exciting when the baby arrives, spending time together as husband and wife — just the two of you — is also precious. 
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Hi! I'm Toni Tiu,
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notsquare
August 10, 2009 at 10:13 am (15 years ago)cute and unique!
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Daphne
August 10, 2009 at 11:52 am (15 years ago)This is the first time I’ve heard of a babymoon hehe
I’m glad you and H were able to share some quality time before Timmy arrives.
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Em Dy
August 10, 2009 at 1:18 pm (15 years ago)Thanks for sharing the term, Toni. It’s the first time I’ve heard of it. My sister’s pregnant too; will suggest a babymoon!
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Badet
August 10, 2009 at 2:56 pm (15 years ago)A babymoon, cute concept! Couples deserve quality time together, with or without a baby.
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Glenda
August 10, 2009 at 3:06 pm (15 years ago)babymoon – now that’s something new to me. next time i get preggy, i’ll ask husband to take me on a babymoon. it sounds like a great way to relax, pre-labor
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kreez
August 10, 2009 at 4:50 pm (15 years ago)never heard of babymoon before, but I completely agree, this is a great idea. On my first trimester, and we were back in Manila, we decided to have a babymoon in Bohol thinking that the next time we travel we would already have a baby in tow.
Our next babymoon will be in a little over two weeks… weee! 6 days of strolling around and/or relaxing my baby bump by the pool so looking forward to it!
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ruth
August 10, 2009 at 9:29 pm (15 years ago)if i may suggest– go see movies! this is one of those things you can’t do much of after the baby arrives (unless you have a very trustworthy yaya, of course)… and when timmy is old enough to go with you, you’ll be watching a different genre of movies na, hehe…
Lissa
August 11, 2009 at 5:18 am (15 years ago)Ed and I went on a babymoon before Connor and I’m glad we did. It gives you a chance to reconnect and just enjoy each other before the new baby comes. I would probably do that again with the 2nd one.
kat
August 11, 2009 at 10:47 pm (15 years ago)our babymoon for rockstar boy was in italy! we had an swesome time and it was a great break before he was born. i so wish i travelled more before the kids… we didn’t go on a babymoon for Lil C. but are treating ourselves to mexico sans kids this november! our 1st time to leave them alone!
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