There’s no such thing as a boring person. Maybe you just don’t know that person well enough.
Here’s the back story.
Some colleagues and I were getting ready for a presentation. We had to wear the color red as part of our group’s “look,” but I wasn’t wearing red (that’s a different story). One particular lady decided she wanted to help me get the team spirit.
Lady: “You want to borrow this?” (points at her red leather wristband with studs and spikes)
Me: “No, that’s alright. Thanks though.”
Lady: “Sa bagay. If you have a boring personality, hindi babagay.” (“It figures. If you have a boring personality, it won’t suit you.”)
I looked at her with raised eyebrows, but she just fiddled with her wristband. While it wasn’t a direct attack, I felt really offended. First of all, I hardly knew this girl. While we worked together, we never had a personal relationship. Secondly, I felt bad to be labeled as “boring.” Just because I’m reserved, it doesn’t mean I’m not interesting.
This happened more than a year ago but I remember the incident like it happened only yesterday. I know I’m not perfect, but at least I don’t go labeling people so negatively especially if I don’t know them too well. I admit that it hurt a little bit, you know? If you were told you were boring, how would you feel?
I also got really offended because I believe there’s no such thing as a boring person. But then again, those are my beliefs, not hers.
Everyone has a story, but not all of them say it loudly. Perhaps if you get to know them, you’ll start to see beyond how they dress and how they act, and you’ll realize how what once seemed boring was interesting all along.
Hi! I'm Toni Tiu,
and I've been blogging at
at Wifely Steps since 2003. This started as a blog to help newly weds adjust to married life. It has evolved into a home and parenting blog. I write about things close to my heart -- good eats, good reads, family, marriage, and the little things that make everyday happy.
Tessa
July 17, 2007 at 10:47 am (17 years ago)Yes, it’s true.
renin
July 17, 2007 at 11:21 am (17 years ago)I agree! We’re the same, yet different, aren’t we?
barbiegel
July 17, 2007 at 9:26 pm (17 years ago)very well said…
meeya
July 18, 2007 at 1:53 am (17 years ago)i agree. hmmm, so what’s the story behind this post?
Via
July 18, 2007 at 7:40 am (17 years ago)hmmm… I wonder who the nasty person was? Or were you forced to be such by circumstance?
markmomukhamo
July 18, 2007 at 8:42 am (17 years ago)Oh my God! You’re a way better person than I am. Kung ako sinabihan nun wala na siyang kilay: sabay hirit “ayan may maikukwento ka na tungkol sa akin.” hehe
BTW, that’s no lady. 😉
G.
July 18, 2007 at 9:01 am (17 years ago)wow – that’s ballsy! anyway, i’ve met you once and i don’t think you’re boring at all!
jojo
July 18, 2007 at 12:16 pm (17 years ago)hellow!?!?!? doesn’t she ever read your blog?!?!?!
kitts
July 18, 2007 at 12:45 pm (17 years ago)*lol* ako din mao-offend pag sinabihan ng boring 😀
Daphne
July 18, 2007 at 1:54 pm (17 years ago)One thing I’ve noticed here in Pinas is that people can be quite tactless and offensive without realizing that they are insulting. Oh well I guess that is part of our cultural flaw as a people.
lady cess
July 18, 2007 at 4:57 pm (17 years ago)ay how mean. and yet you remained cool and composed kahit offended ka
Cookie
July 18, 2007 at 6:13 pm (17 years ago)Whether she meant it or not, the delivery was really offensive. You know how it is naman here, when old pals see you they say..”Uy ang taba mo ngayon.” when, in fact, they mean you look healthy. Either way, nakakabwisit pa din!! Buti hindi mo binatukan
renin
July 18, 2007 at 7:01 pm (17 years ago)there really are bunch of nitpickers who make comments hastily… they are the people who find it hard to know a person first before making a good picture/impression for a person (and its the unfair part of it)…let them be. see i’m making judgment here…*hehehe*
jennyL
July 18, 2007 at 9:50 pm (17 years ago)Hi just poppin’ in here and thought i’d comment. OMG so tactless of her naman to say that to you like you said you don’t know that person well. Some people are sometimes rude and don’t know they are already hurting other’s feeling. I have encountered tactless people too i also feel hurt.
Bluey
July 18, 2007 at 10:02 pm (17 years ago)Hi Toni! You know what I would’ve done? I’d have given her a copy of the Desiderata…oh wait – I’ve done that already. LOL.
tin
July 18, 2007 at 10:18 pm (17 years ago)ang sungit naman nun. if she found you boring just because you won’t wear that wrist band thingy, all the more when she meets me! i’m the goddess of bore!
Dr Emer
July 19, 2007 at 6:54 am (17 years ago)I can stand as valid witness: dear Toni is NOT a boring person.
eye
July 21, 2007 at 10:32 pm (17 years ago)Seems to me that she’s the boring one, coz’ she needs to resort to wearing a “red leather wristband with studs and spikes” so that she could look or appear interesting to others 😉 Kudos to you Toni for your such a high EQ.
ela
July 24, 2007 at 12:29 pm (17 years ago)ako naman i never imagined you being boring. sa mga kwento mo, mukhang napakakulay nga ng buhay mo e
di bale toni, you still continue to inspire us naman e, so keber na lang!