A simple rule for blog-hopping: If you don’t like it, don’t read it. If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.
Simple. It’s all about respect. While bloggers cannot choose those who read their blogs, readers can choose to be helpful or not.
It is very difficult to find sincerity online. Over my past four years of blogging, I’ve made friends, lost some and made new ones again. Sincerity is a rare find in cyberspace. I’m blessed to have discovered some golden nuggets online.
There are those golden nuggets of sisterhood, transition, laughter, the power of the woman, growing together, becoming a good mother, sight, gentleness, home comforts, kindred spirits, a happy (not lonely) hearts club, rediscovery, consistency, song, family. And there are many more nuggets I have yet to find.
There are those hard rocks that get in the way. But as it is with blogging, just toss them aside and move on. If you don’t like ’em, don’t read ’em. Eventually you’ll find your golden nuggets, as I’ve found mine. See the right side bar and you’ll know what I mean.
Hi! I'm Toni Tiu,
and I've been blogging at
at Wifely Steps since 2003. This started as a blog to help newly weds adjust to married life. It has evolved into a home and parenting blog. I write about things close to my heart -- good eats, good reads, family, marriage, and the little things that make everyday happy.
TinTin
June 1, 2005 at 2:10 am (19 years ago)Hey Toni! I can’t wait to meet up with you and others when I get there July!
Anonymous
June 1, 2005 at 4:01 am (19 years ago)hey toni! you are one of my golden online nuggets
kala
husticia
June 1, 2005 at 5:42 am (19 years ago)thank god for blogging and i’ve met a good bunch of people, too. (kasama ka don)
BabyPink
June 1, 2005 at 8:53 am (19 years ago)naku, the first paragraph says it all. right you are, my golden nugget friend.:)
eye
June 1, 2005 at 8:53 am (19 years ago)“If you don’t like it, don’t read it. If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” — i couldn’t agree more… and i couldn’t understand how some visitors gather the guts to leave nasty comments. suggestion are fine, but they have to carefully written so as not to offend the blogger.
thanks for being one of my blogger friends, you’re one of my golden nuggets
jojo
June 1, 2005 at 8:58 am (19 years ago)i agree!!! though I haven’t been victimized by nasty comments, I think it’s just basic courtesy to keep our mouth shut if what we have to say is not good.
and that doesn’t apply to the cyberworld only. i think the world could be a more peaceful place if we just learn to keep our mouths shut.
Anonymous
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Jeanny
June 1, 2005 at 10:53 am (19 years ago)real friends are hard to find online and Im glad I found a real one in you.
Cheers to all bloggers who knew how to respect others 😀
BatJay
June 1, 2005 at 11:49 am (19 years ago)hi toni.
great post. i love how you put it – “mining the blogging world”. i guess that’s really what it’s all about. you take all the good that blogging provides and you drop the rest.
i remembered, there’s this old neil young song that goes…
“I want to live,
I want to give
I’ve been a miner
for a heart of gold”
Toni
June 1, 2005 at 11:56 am (19 years ago)TinTin: Just let us know when you can meet us in Manila.
I can’t wait to meet you too!
kala: And so are you =)
justice: piling-pili lang ang matitinong bloggers. isa ka dun 😀
eye : DITTO!!!
diane: And you’re a golden nugget to me too my dear Timezone-playing pal!
jojo : Yes, that’s gotta go outside the blogging world too. I’d like to think that how one leaves comments online is how he/she would react to real life discussions.
Jeanny : Cheers to you too, sis!
BatJay: Just like you to link it to a song, a beautiful one at that! And yeah, it’s all about mining and digging here you know. Hirap din pero once you find that gold nugget (like you!), it’s worth the find!
Yupki
June 1, 2005 at 3:20 pm (19 years ago)Hey Toni, the Internet has indeed provided a new venue to meet friends. Hey, what happened to your Bangkok plans?
D.T.
June 1, 2005 at 3:30 pm (19 years ago)Dude, I totally agree! It’s like what Thumper says (Thumper from Bambi):
If you cant say something nice…dont say nothing at all.
Sheesh…if a horny rabbit knows this already, why cant we all?
Toni
June 1, 2005 at 4:38 pm (19 years ago)david: ROTFLMAO! Lessons from a horny rabbit!
yasmin: Our plans keep a-changin’!!!!!!!! Iniisip naman namin July naman. Ewan ko ba gulo namin mag-usap! LOL!
echa
June 1, 2005 at 5:32 pm (19 years ago)so agree with your words. The readers are not getting paid when they read another weblog, so they can read, and if they don’t like, then don’t comment as they don’t enjoy reading it at all. But since weblog has a commenting system, it will say that suggestion is needed. When the commenters are rude, it is not a suggestion, but I sometime have seen the rude weblogger who posted rude aswell, how about that? it is like waking up a wild lion, isn’t it? Well, i think, when we get a critic, rude comments, we have to be open minded unless if the commenters comment something that is not true at all, i meant, just want to insult the weblogger him/herself (if this is the case, commenting only to insult, off from the topic itself, the commenter is probably a paranoia *grin*)
anyway, nice blog and entries
Toni
June 1, 2005 at 5:58 pm (19 years ago)echa: Thanks for your thoughts! I think that as long as comments are crafted constructively, sharing of opinions is fine.
Janet
June 1, 2005 at 6:56 pm (19 years ago)I completely agree, but I guess blogging is like real life…every now and then you’ll run into an idiot or two! BTW, hello, Michele sent me!
Toni
June 1, 2005 at 7:13 pm (19 years ago)janet: Hi! Thanks for stopping by!
HanAgiRL
June 1, 2005 at 9:16 pm (19 years ago)A-freakin’-men to that Toni! so far, i haven’t encountered any “haters” in the blog world but i know of others who have and it’s a pity that they stop blogging just coz of these negative people who have no respect at all for every bloggers little nook in cyberspace.
oh and nice new look you got here
Toni
June 1, 2005 at 9:33 pm (19 years ago)hanagirl: Yeah, kakainis ang mga irita factor na ganun. And yep, new look here. Needed a change!
Junnie
June 1, 2005 at 9:42 pm (19 years ago)amen!
there’r times though you want to hear what’s bad or some things you need to improve on. you can disagree without being disagreeable.
life is to be seen as a balance, a little of praise and a little bit of criticism. the secret is in moderation, including moderation itself.
Toni
June 1, 2005 at 9:57 pm (19 years ago)junnie: as long as it’s all done constructively, it’s a-ok!
ruth
June 1, 2005 at 10:16 pm (19 years ago)you know what draws me to your blog? it gives off such positive vibes!
Ate Sienna
June 1, 2005 at 10:18 pm (19 years ago)kainis, hindi tayo nagkita… pero pagbalik ko, promise mo, magkikita na tayo, hokey?
miss na rin kita sa email group. lagi kang absent
hehehe
Anonymous
June 2, 2005 at 4:10 am (19 years ago)toni, i read you loud and clear. and this couldn’t have been more timely than now.
ang ganda ng metaphor mo… mine blogging for what it is.
if there’s anything the last few weeks have taught me in the WEB of blogging, it’s that you just have to chuck judgemental people who think they have it made. yung mga people who can stand in judgement of other people at nagmamalinis.
kahit saan, whether in real life or not, mayrong life suckers at mayrong life givers. kaya swerte mo na rin talaga kung may loyal gold nuggets ka rin talaga sa tabi mo who will understand you no matter what.
svelte rogue
Toni
June 2, 2005 at 12:46 pm (19 years ago)ruth : I dislike negative vibes so I’m glad you feel the positive vibes in here!
Ate Sienna : Opo! Opo!
lara dear: And you’re one of my golden nuggets. I’m glad!
AnP
June 2, 2005 at 5:27 pm (19 years ago)so true!
annabanana
June 3, 2005 at 8:33 am (19 years ago)toni,
you are so right. gold is precious because it is not easy to find, but when you find it, it is a joy forever, di ba? have a nice weekend toni! hugs!
Toni
June 3, 2005 at 2:38 pm (19 years ago)AnP : And you’re one of those golden nuggets ha.
annabanana : Hey have a great weekend too!!! (hugs)