Is it true that when you dream of loved ones who have passed away, it means they are visiting you?
I dreamt of my late grandfather, Wowo, twice in the last couple of days. Both dreams were very vivid too.
The first one was about my birthday. I dreamt that my officemates gave me a surprise party. When I walked into the restaurant, all my loved ones started singing the “Happy Birthday” song. My closest friends from different barkadas were there and I was amazed with how my officemates arranged the grand party. On one side of the room were my family and relatives, and Wowo was there.
He wasn’t singing along but he was smiling so beautifully. I immediately asked him, “Wowo! What are you doing here?!” I was so excited to see him. But he just smiled and nodded along to the singing. He looked really good. Cheeks were as rosy as always. And that smile! So calm, so peaceful. I remember him smiling that way during family gatherings. He’d sit in the living room while we grandkids would laugh and run all over his home. He would just sit there, a brandy in one hand, smiling.
Dream number two was last night. My family and I, along with my grandmother (his wife), were out shopping. Wowo was with us for most of the trip, sharing jokes and stories. There was one moment when he sat beside me and tapped my right knee. I don’t remember if he asked if it hurt or if it was weak. I can’t remember any further because my alarm went off.
The truth is my right knee is weaker than my left. I wonder if he’s trying to tell me something. To have it checked perhaps?
I’ve been debating with myself whether this is all a product of my subconscious; my wanting to be in touch with him. Because I do talk to him in my prayers, you know. He’s like a guardian angel to me. The logical side of me is saying that because I think of him, it’s only natural that he’d appear in my dreams. It’s like when you watch a scary film and get nightmares, traces of the movie are carried into your dreams.
Then the spiritual and emotional side of me’s saying he did visit me, telling me he’s doing well (because I often ask him how he is) and that he’s watching over me.
Yes, maybe it’s that. Because my eyes just teared up a little bit.
I suppose there is no logical explanation to everything. Or if there is logic in everything, they aren’t the only explanations.
So did he visit me? Is he giving me a message? I don’t know for sure. But I do know that everytime I dream of him, there is a blanket of happiness and serenity that covers me. I wake up peaceful and calm, and then I say a prayer of thanks. Sometimes there’s just no logic to everything. Sometimes it’s better that way.
Hi Wowo, I love you. I miss you.
Hi! I'm Toni Tiu,
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August 7, 2006 at 11:18 am (18 years ago)They say dreams represent a lot of things. It could be he knows that you miss him and so he visited you. It could be a reminder to have a check up to avoid worse illness. His own way of protecting you since he can’t really protect you anymore.
Whatever the reason may be … I’m sure that he’s just around looking over you, making sure that you’re safe at all times.
Via
August 7, 2006 at 1:21 pm (18 years ago)I believe he was visiting you Toni!
You don’t need logic to explain that, in my point of view. It reminded me nga of this saying: “We close our eyes when we kiss because the most beautiful things are those we cannot see.” 
ruth
August 7, 2006 at 3:32 pm (18 years ago)whatever it means, whyever it happened, what’s more important is how you feel about your dream, toni. you’e lucky to have someone you consider an angel and whose visits, in dreams, can spark such happiness and peace in you.
Ravvy
August 7, 2006 at 4:32 pm (18 years ago)What a cool name for your Gramps – Wowo!! I actually at first thought that was an exclamation – like “Wow-OH!”, until i read further.
The whole dream thing, no idea. I get confused with dreams at the best of time. I keep dreaming about the same bloke – and then assure myself that its a ‘sign’ or its meant to mean something. It could just mean i have him on my mind, and therefore my subconscious me also thinks about it. OR – if i havent been thinking about it – perhaps my subconscious me WANTS me to think about him. OR – if im completly having a moment – he’s a guy and im single and thats just what single women think about sometimes.
So, in a sense, i hope that is sort of my answer.
But its a nice way to think about the loved ones who have passed on. That in your dreams they visit you.
Have sweet dreams then!
delish
August 8, 2006 at 1:21 am (18 years ago)“Sometimes there’s just no logic to everything. Sometimes it’s better that way.”
how true… love, with all its complexities, is not always logical…
you make me so envious of the love you have for your grandpa… i used to be as devoted to my grandma but she left us when I was still a child, unable to really appreciate and even show her what her wrinkled hands meant to me…
Daphne
August 8, 2006 at 3:36 pm (18 years ago)I think that he watches over you and specifically chose to appear in your dreams because it was your birthday. To reassure you that he still looks after you even if he is no longer around.