On Martial Arts & Marriage

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Every weekend morning, my husband kisses my son and I goodbye to pursue a long-time hobby of his: martial arts. He’s been into his training for a couple of years now. It’s a Saturday morning routine I know not to combat with. It is, after all, a passion of his.

Kali Basic Knife Sparring: Guro Jeric Pantaleon & Dennis Tiu


Martial Arts & My Husband

That’s my husband and his friend doing Kali basic knife sparring in the video. I understand that Kali is Filipino martial arts, the oldest one at that. His friend is a teacher at Combat Kali Manila, where they teach Filipino kickboxing, stick fighting, knife fighting, dumog (Filipino submission wrestling) and practical self-defense (like handling hostage situations, robbery, death threats, sexual harassment, etc.)

My husband and I don’t have a shared hobby. But we’re big supporters of each other’s hobbies! I support his love for martial arts, and he supports my love for blogging.

I’m super proud of how much my husband has accomplished with his martial arts. He’s doing this more for learning than for eventually teaching martial arts, and I love how he’s so passionate about learning this super awesome art. He’s come home with a cut above his eye or bruises on his arms — causes of alarm for me, badges of his hard work for him. I’ve tempered the way I’d react to these little martial arts souvenirs, but I still get alarmed.

My husband’s hobbies are mostly on the active side — working out, playing sports, martial arts. My hobbies border on the passive — reading books, blogging, writing. The one thing we have in common is walking. Before we had a tot in tow, we’d walk a lot. We’d walk everywhere. It’s harder with a 3-year-old now! It should be something we revive and do together.

So every Saturday morning, I know not to pester my husband with other plans. Well, I still do, even if I know it’s a lost battle. πŸ˜› I don’t really mind though because martial arts is a passion of his, and he spends the rest of the weekend with me and Timmy. Someday he’ll teach Timmy some basic moves and we’ll sign him up for a formal martial arts class. That would be super awesome, and I know my husband will be mighty proud of our boy. For now, I’m mighty proud of my husband! Hence his first appearance on my blog, doing his martial arts thing. :) Go, Husby!

13 Comments on On Martial Arts & Marriage

  1. maqui
    July 19, 2013 at 10:41 am (9 years ago)

    my husband is into martial arts too. brazilian jujitsu naman. every saturday and sunday morning, he goes on training. and like you, i pester him with other plans even though i know he will say no. hahaha

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    • Toni
      July 19, 2013 at 11:41 am (9 years ago)

      Wow galing! Have you ever joined him in martial arts classes? πŸ˜‰

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  2. romela
    July 19, 2013 at 11:08 am (9 years ago)

    Oh the trials of a wife trying to convince the husband of some other plans… but to no avail, haha! I think I’m gradually learning to give way to my husband’s hobbies and passions because he comes out a better hubby/dad after his “me” time :-)

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    • Toni
      July 19, 2013 at 11:41 am (9 years ago)

      I so agree! I’ve observed the same thing, how my husband is in a better mood, in better spirits when coming home from lessons. If he misses out, he gets cranky!

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  3. cheekeegirl
    July 19, 2013 at 11:12 am (9 years ago)

    In time I want my daughter to get into karate or martial arts too. better to be safe. for self-defense,,, hehehehe

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    • Toni
      July 19, 2013 at 11:40 am (9 years ago)

      So true! I want to learn also but have no time. Well, that’s palusot. Haha. I’d rather sleep in on weekend mornings!

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  4. Daphne
    July 19, 2013 at 12:18 pm (9 years ago)

    I get quite alarmed as well when my hubby comes home from playing basketball and he has bruises on his arms or legs. I know it is a physical game but I still get anxious.

    For one, I believe he is too ‘old’ na to play basketball and second I know he pushes himself too much just to stay fit. At least he makes an effort to stay in shape while me I rather stay indoors and not melt away in a sweaty puddle. πŸ˜€ I don’t have to exert much effort as merely climbing down the stairs to go to our kitchen, I’m perspiring na. And no it isn’t a long staircase ha! hehehe

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    • Toni
      July 19, 2013 at 12:52 pm (9 years ago)

      Naku Daph, that’s so true! At least our husbands are doing something to be in good health. We should be inspired by them. πŸ˜€ It’s hard though. Hahaha! πŸ˜€

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  5. jher
    July 19, 2013 at 12:29 pm (9 years ago)

    I hope nagagamit ni hubby ang martial arts skills nya for more than defense. Hahahahah. Sori sori General Patronage nga pala ang blog mo. πŸ˜›

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    • Toni
      July 19, 2013 at 12:52 pm (9 years ago)

      Sa e-mail nalang kita sinagot!!! πŸ˜€

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  6. Lyn
    July 19, 2013 at 2:25 pm (9 years ago)

    “My husband’s hobbies are mostly on the active side β€” working out, playing sports, martial arts. My hobbies border on the passive β€” reading books, blogging, writing.”

    Yay, I can relate, Ms. Toni!

    Sometimes, this setup helps din. For example, I’ll try some of his activities, then I’ll blog about the whole experience, hihi. It’s fun and it’s healthy for the relationship din :) Thanks for sharing these things with us; I love stories like this esp. that I’m a newbie wife. :)

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    • Toni
      July 20, 2013 at 1:09 pm (9 years ago)

      Hi Lyn! Thanks for dropping by :) Cool! New activities make great inspiration for blog stories, ‘no? πŸ˜€ Come visit again!

      Reply
  7. Alex
    August 6, 2022 at 2:18 pm (2 months ago)

    Even my wife Rozie she wants to learn martial art. I think this blog will help her.

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