“Suportahan mo ako, Wifey, ha?”
Marriage tip: When you’re each other’s biggest cheerleader, things go more smoothly than you think. Support is one of the most cherished gifts you can give your partner. It’s an emotionally loaded package. By being your partner’s cheerleader, you are:
- trusting him that what he is doing is right
- showing him that you believe in what he’s doing
- empowering him — he can do it!
As partners in marriage, it’s expected that you will support each other — “through sickness and health, for richer or poorer.” Good times, bad times, big choices, small choices. It’s easy to say you’re supportive, but it’s more valuable to show your support. Genuinely displayed support can make all the difference in a day (or month or year) of your marriage.
Marriage tip: Support and cheer for your partner.
When you are your partner’s cheerleader, you are trusting him that what he is doing is right.
Marriage is a partnership in shared values. When you have a better understanding of what he needs support for, it will be easier to translate this belief into trust, support and cheering. I’m not a big fan of blind trust, and I don’t encourage it.
When my husband got into running, I was really worried that he was overdoing his physical activities. He’s also into boxing, martial arts and going to the gym. While I wanted to support a new physical activity, I was extremely wary about how it would all turn out for him. Physically, can he keep up with all this? On the family side, would that lessen time he’d spend with me and Timmy? My lack of support showed, and I knew it annoyed him. We talked about my concerns about his need to balance his choice of physical activities. Things worked out. He has prioritized running, and he spends even more time with me and Timmy. I trust his choice and am his biggest cheerleader!
When you are your partner’s cheerleader, you are showing him that you believe in what he’s doing.
I believe in my husband’s running – I believe it has done wonders for his health and emotional well-being. But more than the running, it goes back to shared values. Believing in what your partner is doing means you fully support the reason behind it. I cheer for my husband’s running because I believe it is important for his health, for his life. His passion for the sport has an effect on what he chooses to eat, what other activities our family can engage in. It’s all for good health, and more importantly, a good life.
When you are your partner’s cheerleader, you are empowering him — he can do it!
Because of your genuine show of support, your partner will be even more motivated. It goes to show you know what he is doing is right, that you too believe in the path he is on. Your being a cheerleader is fuel for his dream. My husband ran his first marathon last month, and Timmy and I supported him! We were his cheerleaders from making sure he was preparing properly (resting when he was sick, having the right gear) to celebrating his victory after the run.
Be each other’s biggest cheerleader. You’ll be amazed by how this simple marriage tip can create wonders for you and your partner. Trust, support and cheer.