I miss my girlfriends. They’re all over the country, and I see them once in a blue moon. My best friend is a guy. My other best friend is my husband, who is, obviously, a guy. (Is it possible to have two best friends, by the way?) I digress. I was talking about girlfriends.
I’m not exactly kikay1, but I do have my girlie moments. For example, I want to have my eyebrows threaded, get a haircut, possibly some highlights, get a facial, get a massage, go shopping, go window-shopping, all those girlie things. But I’m stuck in losyang2 land for now. Though I CAN be kikay and do those kikay stuff on my own, it’s not as fun as doing with a friend.
My officemate and I were talking about girlfriends once, and I realized I didn’t have a constant girl buddy. By constant I mean someone I see every week, or every other week, someone I can talk girl stuff with. I have a lot of girlfriends, but not one who’s really close to me, proximity-wise as well.
It’s not a terrible case. I’m very happy with the circle of friends I have. I just miss having to chatter endlessly while getting your nails done together. Come to think of it, I’ve never done that with a friend.
Having guys for best friends is huge fun and a huge advantage. But a girl best friend? That’s still entirely different, and someone I wish I had. There’ll be that constant buddy I can watch girly movies with or just talk and do girl stuff with.
But for now, I’ll be going to the parlor alone, cherishing my quiet time before walking back out into the noisy city. For now, I’ll be reading through fashion magazines alone, still wondering whether this outfit would make my hips look big. For now, I’ll be watching girly movies with my officemates, or just be catching them on DVD so I can watch them at home. For now (and as always), I’ll be looking forward to the elusive and precious coffee and dinner dates my girlfriends and I have. (Miss you, beautiful girls of LHC!)
Lucky are those who have these best girly buddies. Treasure them, cherish them, have fun with them, the way only girls can.
1 Very girlie. Hmmm. I can’t think of an apt translation for this word.
2 A woman letting herself go. Haha!
Hi! I'm Toni Tiu,
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at Wifely Steps since 2003. This started as a blog to help newly weds adjust to married life. It has evolved into a home and parenting blog. I write about things close to my heart -- good eats, good reads, family, marriage, and the little things that make everyday happy.