Anniversary Thanks (for the future)

H and I are celebrating our 2nd year wedding anniversary in about 2 months time. I was thinking of getting something for our families and our entourage. Yes, ye olde wedding entourage.

Something like a small gift and a little note to each one of them. For example, I can give one of my godmothers a bunch of flowers and a note thanking her for her guidance over the past two years, how her advice was invaluable during the first months of our marriage, etc etc etc. All in complete sincerity of course!

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Let me digress for a moment. You know what they say about picking out godparents for your wedding? Ideally, they should be married since they’ll be guiding you during your marriage. H and I did pick out some couples we looked up to but there was a healthy dose of singles in our godparent line-up. Why?

Let’s talk about K, M and S. They’re my single godmothers. They’re all incredibly down-to-earth and really funny when they want to be, and they’re just plain cool. Best of all, they are brilliant careerwomen H and I look up to. Whenever I need motivation for work, I think of K, M and S and see how driven they are in each field they are in. The passion for my career is rekindled and I’m ra-ra-ing to work again.

Besides, how many married couples out there aren’t really “married”? You know what I mean?

I got a lot of flack from people when they found out about my godparents line-up. I didn’t want to go through so many explanations because the stress of other wedding preps were already getting to me then. But now it’s out in the open, so for you all who were wondering about that, there’s my explanation.

By the way, since we’re on the flack part, I also got some flack from the older part of my wedding crowd on that bouquet-throwing thing. You see, I didn’t have that. I didn’t have the throwing of the bouquet or the grabbing of the garter. I’ve been through so many humiliating moments when I was single, with my family and friends pushing and I mean practically PUSHING me onto the dance floor so I can make a fool out of myself and grab the bouquet. Seeing how much frustration that can give a single lady, I decided to cut it out of our program. I gave my bouquet to my brother-in-law’s girlfriend in secret. And the garter? I didn’t wear one. It itched!

So here’s unsolicited advice for you singles planning to get married: Your wedding is YOUR wedding. Plan it according to what your heart dictates, not what the older generations or what other people say. What’s the use of inserting something into the program if it irritates the hell out of you? YOU’re the bride, YOU’re the boss. Just make sure you consult your groom too by the way.

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So back to my wedding anniversary gift idea, I hope I remember that. I have an anniversary tracker on the bottom of my page. I surely won’t forget about my anniversary but I might forget about THIS idea. In case I do, someone please remind me about this on May 1. 😀

Hi! I'm Toni Tiu, and I've been blogging at at Wifely Steps since 2003. This started as a blog to help newly weds adjust to married life. It has evolved into a home and parenting blog. I write about things close to my heart -- good eats, good reads, family, marriage, and the little things that make everyday happy.